Monday, Apr 06, 2020

New York, NY

The Manager and the Firefighter

According to Internal Family Systems, our internal parts have roles. Some are managers who attempt to steer our thoughts and behavior away from perceived pain. They manage their way through it, trying to avoid trouble. Then there are firefighters. When the managers fail to avoid pain, firefighters come to the rescue. As adults, we typically don’t appreciate the depth and […]

The Mess in my Head

Part of me is traumatized. It screams: I didn’t do anything wrong! Why is this happening? It’s not my fault! I don’t know what to call this part of my psyche. A howling child. The devasted part of me. It’s a bundle of pain that is trapped beneath the surface. When it comes out, I feel that pain – as […]