Why would I want to kill myself? I mean, I should be so happy! So full of self-esteem. I have a great life and, honestly, nothing is wrong. I should be fine. But I’m not. I feeling like killing myself. Why? And then I got some sage insight from a mentor, who said something like the following. None of us are integrated people. We all have various aspects of our personal...
We all have a dark side, but so many of us are living in denial of it.
You know the thing many of us tuck away as if it doesn’t exist, living in denial or shame from fear of what it might reveal if we investigate it.
Here’s the rub:Living in fear of your dark side doesn’t make it go away. Click To Tweet
In fact, it might be right there, brewing under the surface and revealing itself in painful ways.
A wise business coach once told me:We can’t heal what we refuse to reveal. Click To Tweet
By shining a light on what ails you, taking the time to sit quietly with your thoughts, we can begin to uncover what’s underneath our stuck states keeping us in the dark.
I can’t think of a better metaphor for this idea than the Tale of Two Wolves. I used to read this to my kids as a way of teaching them that it’s o.k. to be angry, or hurt, frustrated, or sad, whatever it is that brings pain to our lives.
The trick is in owning it.
Here’s the legend:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”Shine your light. It’s up to you to own and reveal what’s inside you. Click To Tweet
By connecting with our inner world and shining a light for healing, you can begin to do just that – heal. This may or may not be a simple fix, that’s up to you. In all fairness, some of our stuck places can be overwhelming.
What I can tell you is that this practice builds and improves with skill. Meaning, when we learn to live with the light AND the dark, we free ourselves from fears.
Which means, we begin to feel more alive and our enthusiasm is free to guide us. In this way, we gain clarity around boundaries, become comfortable voicing our needs and desires, we connect on a deeper level to life while harvesting the gifts that come from living without fear of our dark sides.