It’s an epidemic of emptiness. So many of us live our entire lives with a hollow feeling in our chests. We have a love/hate relationship with that hollow feeling in the chest, don’t we? Of course we hate feeling empty – that’s easy. But what about loving the feeling of emptiness? Do we secretly prefer…
Four Kinds of People you Should Divorce
Staying with a bad marriage partner is self-sabotage. Still, many of us have heard, over a long period of time, that divorce is not the solution to marital problems. This, of course, is bullsh**. Divorce is not only a viable solution to many marital problems, but it’s also a damn good one. Let’s count the…
I Don’t Want to Do Anything and I’m Not F***ing Depressed!
Inner Rebel Rant ~ I don’t want to do anything! Let’s allow the Inner Rebel to vent some serious frustration. We’ll channel the Inner Rebel, then break down the message. Will try to learn something about why the Inner Rebel attempts to sabotage everything. Channeling the Inner Rebel I don’t want to do anything and…
The Obstacle to Self-Esteem No One’s Talking About
Self-esteem is the holy grail of western psychology, but experts have missed the most important key to helping people get some. The path of self-esteem is said to involve: Making healthy choices Taking action/good habits Healing emotional trauma Changing core beliefs Respecting others Maintaining clear boundaries A positive mindset Effective mental strategies Self-care There are…
We’re Nearly Born Seeing Minorities as Inhuman
Anyone and everyone can be a minority. It depends where you are. Well, this is interesting, the British psychological society has a really interesting article on 10 findings that reveal the worst of human nature. We may not want to really look at these things for what they are, but… …oh my gosh, is this…
Living on Autopilot ~ How to Stop just Enough of the Time
A 5-minute stream of consciousness on autopilot living. Living on autopilot means that you’re not making conscious choices about key elements of your life. If you’re not making conscious choices, what are you doing? Living on autopilot! Living on autopilot means that your subconscious mind is in charge. This is not a bad thing. In…
Five Signs of the #1 Social Infection: Misanthropy
Hatred is the number one social infection and it’s more common than anyone realizes. Some of us just hate people on principle. There’s even a name for general hatred toward human beings: misanthropy. Gustave Flaubert – the Frech novelist who wrote Madame Bovary – claimed that he would …die of suppressed rage at the folly of his…
What We Fail to Recognize Most About Our Inner Selves
Selves. Plural. Like the brain, the psyche is a complex entity, made up of several parts. And like the brain, these parts don’t always agree on the best course of action. Often we feel conflicted or push-pulled in multiple directions to our great distress. Conflicting parts of the psyche can add up to a mess,…
The Manager and the Firefighter
According to Internal Family Systems, our internal parts have roles. Some are managers who attempt to steer our thoughts and behavior away from perceived pain. They manage their way through it, trying to avoid trouble. Then there are firefighters. When the managers fail to avoid pain, firefighters come to the rescue. As adults, we typically…
The Mess in my Head
Part of me is traumatized. It screams: I didn’t do anything wrong! Why is this happening? It’s not my fault! I don’t know what to call this part of my psyche. A howling child. The devasted part of me. It’s a bundle of pain that is trapped beneath the surface. When it comes out, I…
